Making the Holidays Work!
The holidays can bring back good memories or open old scars. Many of us have lost family members that were an integral part of our holiday celebrations. Others have lost interest in decorating, cleaning, cooking and entertaining. Still others don't have family with whom they can share the holidays.
If I plan to share a holiday with family, I ask if I can bring a dish. If they usually say no and if I really want to provide a dish, I will let them know I am bringing my special "Zucchini Loaf" to share. If I don't really want to bring something for the meal, I may just bring a small jar of pumpkin or apple butter as a hostess gift. If I cannot do any of these things, I will bring a card or note wishing them a happy holiday or just come with a hug and a smile.
If I don't have anyone with whom I can share the holiday, I am still going to plan to have a special holiday. I can invite someone over who is in the same boat, alone. I can find a couple of napkins, a candle or special decoration. Things don't need to match, they just need to be festive for you and your guest. You can have a good conversation, enjoy the meal.
If you can't do either, treat yourself to a special meal. Watch a movie or listen to music that makes you feel good. Enjoy being YOU. You can make your holiday pleasant and satisfying. If you can include another person in the plan, you can enjoy the pleasure of company without a lot of fuss. Happy Holidays.!